Author: Joan Schultz

Joan has provided counselling for marriage, family and individual concerns for over 25 years.  She provides guidance and support for relationship difficulties, reconstructing marriage after an affair, conflict resolution, problem-solving and parent-child relationships.  Joan works with individuals who are dealing with depression, anxiety, loss, trauma recovery and/or experience with assault and abuse.

Joan’s approach depends upon the situation presented, and includes a variety of therapeutic approaches such as Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Solution-Focused Brief Therapy, Family Therapy, EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy.  Client strengths are emphasized with personal insight and responsibility for growth is encouraged.

Joan’s doctoral dissertation research focused on resilience factors in adversity. She received her master’s degree in Counselling Psychology from the University of Saskatchewan, followed by two years of specialized clinical training in Chicago.  She is a member of the B.C. College of Psychologists and the B.C. Psychological Association.

Joan enjoys teaching in community, retreat and university settings on topics related to her areas of practice and experience.  Having been married for over thirty years, with four adult children, her approach to relationships and life problems is both realistic and practical.

Winning Your Private Battles

He got the gold. Forty year old Eric Lamaze won an Olympic Gold medal for the individual show jumping competition in the 2008 Beijing Olympics, the first one for Canada in Olympic Equestrian show jumping since 1976. This happened years after being banned from competing on the world stage for a positive drug test. In an interview with CBC Sports he stated “when you give people chances and allow them to come back from their mistakes, great things happen and

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Moving Out of Loneliness

A confession of a Chicago Tribune columnist named Marla Paul captured unexpected interest from the public when she stated in print “I am lonely. This loneliness saddens me.” She wrote “How did it happen that I could be forty-two years old and not have enough friends?” She asked her husband if something was wrong with her. She wondered if people were just too busy for friends. “It seems as though every woman’s friendship quota has been filled and she’s no

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Bouncing Back From Trauma

Adversity impacts the world around us. Few of us will make it through life unscathed. Personal tragedies, traumatic injuries, loss of health, chaotic relationships and financial reversals are just a few of the near normal events that can shake us to our foundation. However, we also hear of individuals who seem to take life’s difficulties in stride, and “bounce back” unexpectedly well with attitudes of determination and perseverance. Often these people become heroes of sorts in our families or culture

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Fostering Resilience: Lessons from an African perspective

Once you embark upon it, you must be prepared for a life-changing impact. Perspectives are skewed. $100 running shoes, refrigerators and paved roads take on new status as luxury items, not necessities. You will come back to North America wondering what we’re all whining about here. Yes, a trip to Africa does just what we’re afraid of. It makes us uncomfortable with our own expectations for a life of comfort and ease. Experiencing life in Zambia made me increasingly aware

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Africa: Resilience in Adversity

Joan Schultz, Ph.D. Registered Clinical Counsellor A year ago I was asked if I would consider donating work for an orphanage in Zambia. My tasks would be to teach caregivers of orphans skills in family life and conflict resolution as well as providing trauma recognition and recovery skills for children recovering from tragedy. The task seemed daunting: What could be said to help these women understand children who have endured situations of which I had still so much to learn

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Dealing Positively with Life’s Negatives

Jay and his sister Maggie grew up in a small northern town, neglected by both parents. Their father, usually absent, was physically abusive when he was home, and their mother, frequently absent also, was intoxicated when present with her children. Jay ended up raising his younger sister, providing the cooking, cleaning and other domestic skills necessary to keep their small trailer habitable. He was skinny and small for his age, and was often bullied and physically abused by schoolmates. Jay

Posted in Depression, General, Personal Growth

A Covenant of Listening

Problems in marriages are as predictable as death and taxes. What’s not so evident is how to solve them. Just as small weeds keep growing into large, deep rooted ones, when small everyday problems are left unresolved they often grow into difficult situations that must be dealt with extensively in order to remove the potential for damage to a relationship. Wouldn’t it be great if we could be proactive about our marriages, solving the little issues before they become major

Posted in Marriage & Relationships, Personal Growth

What Makes a Good Marriage Good?

We were sitting down to lunch. I, a visitor to this large cosmopolitan city, another close male relative, and his daughter. The lunch? A bowl of canned tomato soup that was curdled and lukewarm, and bland cheese sandwiches. My host had done his best and we were just sitting down at the table as his wife, a known gourmet cook, came rushing in to join us, apologizing for her late arrival. Quietly looking at the meal in front of her,

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Rules for a Happy Married Life

1. Never both be angry at once. 2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. 3. Yield to the wishes of the other as an exercise in self-discipline if you can’t think of a better reason. 4. If you have any criticism, make it lovingly. 5. If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good, choose your mate. 6. Never bring up a mistake of the past. 7. Neglect the whole world

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Coaching Your Child’s Emotions

One of my most vivid memories of my childhood occurred when I was five. My father, an agonomist and farmer in Saskatchewan, had taken me on a trip to look at ponies, two of which he was considering buying. Having never ridden before, I begged to ride one. Although I don’t remember how I got on that pony, I do remember how I got off. The pony, most likely responding to my complete lack of skill, immediately galloped off in

Posted in Family & Parenting