Author: Deborah Kors

Deborah is a registered psychologist who offers short-or long-term counselling to individuals and couples, who are experiencing a variety of concerns, including depression, anxiety, self-esteem/self-worth, relationship difficulties, grief and loss, present or past abuse, family of origin issues, midlife issues, and chronic/terminal illnesses.

Deborah also helps clients to address and shift long standing coping strategies and patterns in relationships that may no longer be helpful.

Deborah works with couples who are struggling with conflict, communication problems, and intimacy issues.

Deborah incorporates a broad range of therapy orientations into her practice, and she provides a safe, supportive environment in which clients can explore their issues and difficulties.

Deborah has worked as a psychologist at several hospitals in BC and received her Ph.D. and M.A. degrees in psychology from the University of British Columbia. She is registered with the College of Psychologists of BC and is a member of the BC Psychological Association.

When Loved Ones are Hurting

Kathy’s friend Laurie breaks down in deep sobs while sharing that her favorite aunt has recently passed away. Kathy looks at her friend, “speechless” and “paralyzed,” not knowing what to say or do. In this moment, Kathy wants so much to “make it better,” but fears that anything she says will be the “wrong” thing and will make Laurie feel worse. Maria’s husband Zollie relays that his brother has decided to permanently “cut him off,” after years of trying to

Posted in Personal Growth, Stress & Anxiety

Forgiveness: Release the Burden of Old Grudges

Mary, happily married for 10 years, still harbors extreme bitterness towards an ex-boyfriend who cheated on her 20 years ago. Brett remains enraged with a supervisor that “didn’t appreciate” all of “the hard work” he had done many years earlier. Sheila is frequently at her “boiling point,” in response to the childhood emotional neglect she received from her mother, and wishes her mother would suffer the same pain she experienced. What’s common with the above scenarios? These situations all suggest

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Where Were You When I Needed You Most?

Mark and Rachel are in their mid 40’s and have been married for 20 years. They have been attending couples therapy following a “drifting apart” from each other over several years. In the sessions, they are gradually sharing their feelings to try to regain a greater sense of closeness that they had previously experienced. In one session, Rachel erupts into anger, indicating that she doesn’t think that she can continue the couples therapy as she has not trusted Mark for

Posted in Marriage & Relationships, Stress & Anxiety

Living With a Chronic Illness: Why You Should Maintain Hope

Part 1 – What to expect Kathy vividly remembers her “life turning upside down” after her car accident ten years ago. She has struggled with chronic pain ever since. Despite being a “high achiever,” she has not been able to work since this time and has had difficulty accomplishing her usual household tasks. Martin has had multiple sclerosis for eight years and had to leave an upper management position, after 20 years with the company. Both Kathy and Martin experience

Posted in Stress & Anxiety

Tune in to Your Emotions

Emotions are part of every day life, and most of us have noticed the ups and downs accompanying our varying emotions. Although positive feelings, such as joy, excitement, and love are often welcomed, we tend to struggle with the more unpleasant feelings, such as sadness, hurt, anger, and fear. We tend to view them as “weak,” “bad,” or even “dangerous.” Consequently, we may actively avoid them, trying to race back to the more pleasant feelings. There are good reasons for

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Is Your Child Anorexic?

You notice that your 14 year-old daughter only “nibbles” at family dinners because she “ate earlier with friends.” She now exercises intensely, claiming that the extra 1-2 hours of running each day will get her in shape for her soccer games. You also think that you hear her vomiting in the bathroom. You tell yourself she couldn’t have an eating disorder. After all, she is too young for something as serious as that… Actually, contrary to what many believe, Anorexia

Posted in Family & Parenting